Allowing Our Wings to Dry

When I pulled Damara (guiding children) as my Goddess Guidance Oracle card this morning, I was sorely tempted to ignore it.  But after pulling two more cards,  Butterfly Maiden (transformation) and Isolt (Undying Love), I thought better of it, started writing, and allowed the insights to flow through me like water through tea leaves.

Damara being a faery Goddess always reminds me of my daughter who talks to the fae.  She is going through a transformation as she is in the last two week push before graduation and is in that space of not a child yet not a woman. 

Our last couple of interactions have been of typical teenage angst, though not typical for her.  Usually a bubbly optimistic soul, when she gets into these angst ridden frames of mind, my reaction is to try to 'fix' or lift her up out of that place. 

But does that really serve her highest good?  If I lift her up all the time, how will she ever learn to lift herself up? 

It is within this space Butterfly Maiden swoops in with many lessons.  When a butterfly first emerges from its chrysalis, it has to wait for its wings to unfurl and dry before it can fly.  There is no rushing this process or its wings may not function properly. 

If I try to rush this process for my daughter her wings won't dry or function properly.  Heck, if I rush this process for myself, I won't function properly!

How about you dear one?  Have you been in a space of transformation and had well meaning people try to 'fix' or lift you up out of these spaces?  Have you been forced to get a move on before your wings had a chance to dry? 

Are you resisting these transformation spaces and trying to move on before
it is time?  Feeling like you're not functioning properly because you forced yourself to fly with wet wings?

What if you and I blessed ourselves with permission; to allow our wings to dry and celebrate our neophyte selves? 

What if we allowed ourselves to be giddy with excitement for the newness that transformations brings?

What if we remembered to give ourselves undying love during our transformational times regardless of the situation'? 
 
Today I offer this blessing for my daughter, myself and anyone experiencing change:

May the blessing of Damara help you find those child spaces within yourself needing to be healed.

May the blessings of Butterfly Maiden fill you with lightness of heart to celebrate what is past

And may Isolt remind you undying love is eternal...

No matter what.